✨ Let’s Talk About Squirting (No Shame, Just Facts!) ✨
Hey there, vulva owners! Let’s cut through the noise, debunk the myths, and dive into one of the most talked-about (yet wildly misunderstood) sexual experiences out there: squirting. Is it pee? Can everyone do it? What even is it, anyway? We’ve all heard whispers about this elusive phenomenon—and today, we’re breaking down the science, the sensations, and the real-life truths to separate fact from fiction.
💛 I. Defining Squirting: Bust the Biggest Myth First
Let’s Start With the Basics
Squirting refers to the release of clear, watery fluid from the urethra during intense sexual arousal or orgasm. Crucially, it’s not a “goal” of sexual intimacy—like orgasms themselves, it’s a natural (but not universal) bodily response, easier for some to experience and harder for others.
Let’s settle the question we’re all dying to ask: Is squirting pee? Short answer: No. Long answer: While squirt passes through the urethra (the same tube urine uses), its composition is distinctly different from regular urine—and research backs this up. A 2015 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine observed the bladders of participants before, during, and after sexual arousal: all started with empty bladders, yet the bladders of those who squirted rapidly filled just before release (with fluid distinct from urine) and emptied again afterward.
Squirt contains trace elements of urine byproducts (like urea or creatinine) but is primarily made up of fluid from the Skene’s glands (more on those later)—a glandular structure entirely unrelated to urination. Even on a sensory level, squirt has a milder, sweeter smell and taste compared to urine (no, we’re not being weird—this is just what folks who’ve experienced it report!).
🔬 II. The Star of the Show: Skene’s Glands (AKA the “Female Prostate”)
Anatomy You Deserve to Know
We’ve name-dropped Skene’s glands a few times—and for good reason: they’re the unsung heroes behind squirting (and female ejaculate, which we’ll distinguish next). Let’s get to know them:
- Anatomy 101: The Skene’s glands are a pair of pea-sized glands located along the front wall of the vagina, right near the urethra. They go by plenty of nicknames: paraurethral glands, lesser vestibular glands, periurethral glands, or even the “female prostate” (yes, that’s a real term—they produce PSA, the same enzyme found in male prostate fluid).
- Function: Beyond their role in sexual fluid production, Skene’s glands help with vaginal lubrication, and their secretions are thought to have antimicrobial properties (meaning they may help prevent UTIs—win-win!).
- Why they’re understudied: For decades, female anatomy took a backseat to male research, so Skene’s glands remain one of the less understood parts of the vulvovaginal system. Scientists are still uncovering how they interact with sexual arousal, urinary health, and overall bodily function.
🧐 III. Squirting vs. Female Ejaculate: Not the Same Thing
It’s easy to mix these two up—but they’re distinct, even if both involve sexual fluid release. Let’s break down the differences:
| Aspect | Squirting | Female Ejaculate |
|---|---|---|
| Consistency & Color | Clear, watery | Milky, thick |
| Volume | Highly variable (15–100+ mL) | Small (1–5 mL) |
| Timing | During arousal or before/after orgasm | Exclusively during orgasm |
| Key Components | Skene’s gland fluid + trace urine byproducts | Skene’s gland fluid + fructose, glucose, PSA (like male semen) |
To put it simply: squirting is a larger release of watery fluid (rooted in Skene’s glands and bladder), while female ejaculate is a small, milky secretion straight from the Skene’s glands—think of them as two sides of the same physiological coin, but not identical.
🤍 IV. What to Expect: Volume, Sensation, and Individuality
No “Normal” Exists—And That’s Good
There’s no “normal” when it comes to squirting—and that’s part of what makes it so personal. Let’s break down the two biggest variables:
A. Volume
Pornography has warped our perception here: while some folks do release enough fluid to soak bedding (100 mL or more), the vast majority release far less—around 15 mL (about a tablespoon). Volume depends on factors like hydration, arousal level, body type, and even stress (yes, anxiety can put a damper on things!).
B. Sensation
For those who experience it, squirting often feels intense, pleasurable, and even empowering—a mix of relief, euphoria, and pride in connecting with their body. But feelings vary wildly: some first-timers might panic (“Is something wrong with me?”) or worry about their partner’s reaction (Will they be grossed out? Excited? Shocked?). Others might feel neutral, or even underwhelmed.
The takeaway? There’s no “right” way to feel about squirting. It all comes down to your relationship with your body, your comfort with your partner, and whether the experience feels good for you (not for anyone else).
🌿 V. How to Explore Squirting: No “One-Size-Fits-All” Formula
So we know what squirting is (not pee!) and where it comes from—but how do you explore it? Let’s keep it real: there’s no magic trick, and peer-reviewed research on “proven methods” is scarce (thanks, again, to underfunded female sexual health studies). But based on anecdotal evidence and what little science we have, here’s what to keep in mind:
- Start with relaxation: Stress or pressure to “perform” is the biggest buzzkill. Squirting is more likely when you’re fully present, not fixated on “achieving” something.
- Pressure + the “come-hither” motion: Many people report that targeted pressure on the front vaginal wall (the G-spot area, linked to Skene’s glands) with a “come-hither” finger motion is key. Slow, consistent pressure (not rough!) works better than speed.
- Experiment with different positions: Fingering isn’t the only way—some folks find success with penetration (vaginal or anal, if that’s their thing), external stimulation, or even using toys (like G-spot vibrators).
- Hydrate (but don’t overdo it): Being hydrated can help, but chugging water right before won’t “make” you squirt—it just might make you need to pee (which is not the goal!).
And let’s get personal for a sec: I’ve experienced squirting, and here’s the honest truth: it didn’t happen overnight. It took time, letting go of expectations, and figuring out what my body responded to (spoiler: slow, intentional touch beat frantic movements every time). There were missteps, moments of frustration, and even a few laughs (yes, I once worried I’d peed the bed—we’ve all been there!).
🤔 FAQs: Answers to Your Most Burning Questions
Final Thought 💛
At the end of the day, squirting is just one of the many weird, wonderful ways bodies respond to pleasure. It’s not a sign of “better” sex, and it’s not something everyone can (or wants to) experience—and that’s totally okay. The goal isn’t to squirt; it’s to feel safe, comfortable, and connected to your body.
So to all my vulva owners out there: explore, ask questions, and don’t let myths or societal pressure dictate how you experience pleasure. Your body is yours—and whatever it does (or doesn’t do) is perfect.
